People enjoy making love. They can lose themselves in each other, caressing each other, kissing and get a lot of energy from it. It is a natural source of energy that can make the eyes shine again and improve the skin. Making love is a natural way of expressing life and one which makes people feel strongly connected to one another. It can give relationships a good boost and it is a form of non-verbal communication.

Disturbances in sexuality

Yet, there are a number of strange things going on with sexuality. There is, of course, the one-sided portrayal of sex through porn. Young women think they have to shave their pubic hair because of it and young men expect nothing different. People have all kinds of experiences with their sexuality. They may have had bad experiences, which, by the way, usually occur with family or acquaintances! They can become traumatized because of this without realizing it and take this into a relationship with them.

Masturbation is natural

Pleasuring yourself is taboo for many people, especially for older generations and people from certain churches. That it’s a natural thing that makes people feel good is the most important thing for me. If you feel like making love but your partner doesn’t, or you don’t have a partner, then you can just pleasure yourself; women can practice it with a pillow between their legs. No one would find that strange because it is the most normal thing in the world and it often serves as a good release for tension. Moreover, you know best where and how you like to be touched, which can make an orgasm even better.

Weekly sex is very often

According to all kinds of research, people should be having sex once a week. My view of reality differs. People who work hard, are depressed and people with young children may have sex remarkably less often simply because they are too tired for it. At such a time, physical closeness in the form of a hug or sitting close to each other on the sofa may be the most they can hope for, and very normal. These are the years in which relationships are strongly tested. Can our relationship remain good in spite of a minimum of sex? It’s a matter of talking to and giving attention to each other. Maybe not in bed, but perhaps during a nice walk or just the two of you going somewhere.

The MIR-Method and sexuality

No matter in which area you would like support with your sexuality, the MIR-Method has a number of answers.

Step 2: ‘Detox all toxicity’ helps to get rid of toxic emotions, such as shame and feelings of guilt, but also memories of sexual traumas are erased. Men who are impotent can become potent again when their way of thinking is freed, in combination with physical problems such as a deficiency of nutrients because of a burnout.

If you grew up with parents who saw sex as something “dirty” or “sinful”, you detach yourself from them with step 3: ‘Detach father. Detach mother.’ You will then slowly regain your joy in sex and discover that it’s natural. You will feel free again to masturbate without feeling guilty about it.

Step 4: ‘Clear meridians’ helps you to enjoy again. The circulation meridian is responsible for this. When it is blocked, you can feel apathy, you lose your zest for life, you can’t truly enjoy anything and you are afraid to feel anything. This is often the case with people who don’t feel emotions or who suppress their emotions.

Step 5: ‘Supplement all shortages’ helps with supplementing the correct building blocks that help you to enjoy having sex again. They can be minerals such as manganese or zinc, causing you to be less somber. Or they could be neurotransmitters or hormones such as endorfin or dopamine, which help you to feel more comfortable and relaxed.

Step 7: ‘Fulfill basic needs’ helps with having Self-confidence and the strengthening of your Boundaries. You can more easily say “no” if you find something unpleasant. Intimacy is also a basic need that can become out of balance in humans. By fulfilling this need, you become in touch with feelings of tenderness and soft touch becomes more pleasant. You can receive more easily.

And finally, it is very important to observe if your abdomen is tense. If it is, it can mean that you can’t relax your vagina well or that a man can’t get a good erection. This tension is caused by a disturbance in your 2nd chakra, near your bladder. It usually becomes disturbed by sexual traumas or serious feelings of shame. Chakra 2 becomes optimized in step 8: Optimize chakra and aura’.

How about you? Do you feel freer in your sexuality through the MIR-Method? Or has it helped you with sexual problems? I’d love to hear about it. Please let me know below. Thank you!
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My wish for you is wonderful freedom in your sex life!
Mireille Mettes

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