One of the most often heard results of the MIR-Method is that people feel less anxiety and have more self-confidence! We have even already heard that phobias disappeared: fear of spiders, fear of heights and agoraphobia (fear of open spaces and/or public places).

Fear and anxiety are actually weird emotions, because they are often based on something that is not real! Something that doesn’t really form a threat! If you were in a cage with a lion, fear would be appropriate, but the strange thing is that people are often afraid of things that don’t exist!

Fear of having an accident, fear of not having enough money. They are afraid of an angry reaction, of making mistakes, of rejection by their neighbors or speaking in front of a group of people. Those are all fears for which there is no certainty that they are even going to take place! We all act as though we were the fortunetellers of doomsday scenarios. As if we already know what is going to happen, and that is complete nonsense!

Why, then, do we have this fear?

Why are people so often afraid, then? That is the big question! One of the answers is that fear is an emotion of our inner child. The child doesn’t feel strong enough and wants to be protected. It creates fear in anticipation of an event to prevent you from taking a step towards the neighbors, or towards a group of people. It’s based on experiences you had as a child.

Look back for a moment:
• How were you treated at school when you made a mistake?
• What happened at home if you accidentally broke something?
• How did your peers treat you? Were you laughed at?

These are just a few of the memories required to feel fear as an adult. To get rid of these memories, follow the 9 steps of the MIR-Method. In each of the steps there are elements to help you “cleanse” yourself. You slowly but surely purge the negativity of your youth from yourself. You let go of toxic invectives, and the rejection of your parents, teachers or peers. It can all flow away and give room to feelings of self-love.

Winning back love for yourself

Love for yourself is the most important thing! No one has the right to make you feel small. This, however, has happened to just about everyone and still happens daily to many children. By following the MIR-Method you can win back love for yourself. You will see that you are allowed to make mistakes, to take risks, that you needn’t be afraid of tomorrow or for the reactions of other people.

You aren’t the small, hurt child anymore, but you will become mature inside and discover that you can think of a solution for every situation, or ask for help. You will discover that you are worth it and that you are not alone! Welcome, dear inner adult!

Question for you: What new steps have you taken since you started using the MIR-Method? What doesn’t hinder you anymore? Post it below to stimulate others to take a step as well!

I wish you much happiness and adult courage!
Hearty greetings,
Mireille Mettes

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