57. When You Become Visible Again
Small children are visible! And audible! And continuously ask for your attention. I’m here! Do you see me? I want attention! If you have (had) small children or grandchildren, then you know how it is. After a day with small ones, you’re usually exhausted and glad when they’re sleeping again. Peace and quiet! The nice thing is that these children do you a big favor: they pull you into the present. You can’t muse about the past. You have to shove your worries to the side. They demand that you pay attention and your attention is focused on them. They are all little walking mindfulness coaches and Zen masters!
Action freaks
Why are children such action freaks? They are busy all day long. Undertaking all kinds of things. Discovering how nettles sting and bringing dead frogs inside. They discover how you can draw around a vase of flowers and what’s possible with a waterproof marker and kitchen cabinets. Their biggest secret is: they live now. They aren’t pulled into their pasts. They aren’t inhibted by inner voices such as: is that a good idea? What if other people think it’s strange? If only you don’t get laughed at! Not so loud, think about the neighbors!
Unlearn
No, small children don’t have any of these problems yet. But…we’ll soon take care of that! During their upbringing a lot of original children’s behavior disappears. Curiosity is curbed. Punishment teaches you to think twice before you try something again. You discover that the nicest people in the world are often the unsafest ones. “Don’t do that, the cookies are for the guests” with a tick! on your hand. “Me first” becomes “others first”. The teacher reads your letter to the class and everyone laughs at you. “Me, too” becomes “Skip me”.
Learn
And as you get older, the period of regaining your curiosity comes. Of regaining your freedom. You can color outside of the lines! You don’t always have to follow the rules. You can choose a different path from most other people. In short, you can be different! It’s all right to stick out! I would even say: join us because if we are all strong, we can all stick out together!
Slowly become more visible
People, who are invisible, are skipped. That can be handy in the classroom of an annoying teacher. Or when a father comes home angry and has loose hands. Sometimes people consciously choose to remain invisible. Out of fear for what they could be, for their leadership abilities or their special talents. Being visible can be nerve-wracking. Fortunately, becoming visible is always gradual and at the tempo you can handle.
You see yourself, so other people see you, too
If you do the MIR-Method, you become slowly more and more visible. It begins with you seeing yourself. You pay more attention to your appearance. Your eyes sparkle. You take better care of yourself; take more time for yourself. You give your opinion more clearly. You’re no longer other people’s ball to play with. Because of this, people start to notice you. They start to listen better to you. You’re taken more seriously. You’re visible!
You make yourself visible with the MIR-Method
If you do the MIR-Method, your self-confidence will grow. That is because you are detaching yourself from other people with step 3: “Detach father. Detach mother”. You strengthen your meridians (step 4: “Clear meridians”), including the spleen meridian. This meridian strengthens your self-confidence. And that often causes you to suddenly start singing! An especially good signal!
In addition, step 7: “Fulfill basic needs” plays a role because, among other things, the basic need to “be seen” becomes fulfilled.
Step 8: “Optimize Chakras and Aura” is the last trump card. Because you are stroking this step, you slowly strengthen your chakras. They will eventually become streamlined and all of your original energy and ability, as was intended at the beginning of your life, will return. That makes you very strong in yourself and you will radiate this to others. You can imagine that if you were shy, that shyness just melts away!
Although I’ve only explained a few of the steps, it is important that you always do all 9 steps!
I’m curious about how far you are. Have you also experienced in the meantime that you are becoming more visible? That you are being seen more? Please tell me about it below!
Hearty greetings and much pleasure radiating!
Mireille Mettes
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I’ve come to realize over the years since I was introduced online to MIR that, though I used to think this was silly (though I tried it but not routinely) and then disbanded it, that I’ve figured out how to employ a similar concept, through desperation to keep my sanity and not sink deeply into depression. I’ve been exposed to many methods professing to heal, much of it within the world of therapists, and they are greatly lacking. I have not been helped, I have been misunderstood, and the therapists within the health care industry (in the USA at least..) are lacking, and rather ignorant. It disturbs me greatly when I give them a chance and discover how damaging they are, how little they understand, and how one-track minded they are. We have a very damaged system with very damaged people operating. I have found one must find themselves and indeed not become invisible as Mariel points to. I find the methods of employing healing is a mind/body connection which cannot be discounted. This is why a therapist who is unhealthy him or herself, imo, cannot help anyone. And I feel mean and superficial saying it because this is so misunderstood. But would you want an obese doctor treating you? Wouldn’t you wonder why this person cannot take care of herself and question trusting someone who neglects themselves orchestrating around your health? So… I’ve realized this after a lifetime that I have to get my body into the game. Not sure if it totally works but if I fool myself into it, incorporating what I’d like to believe and employing a method to act it out, I actually respond. I’ve been happier that day because my body knows something happened that day. I spoke to myself on the phone pretending it was someone I’m having issue with, and at the end of the day I felt better, somewhat satisfied I went through these motions of speaking , physically on the phone (to myself of course, not to them). It is called “pretend” but it is very important to put out our “pretend” mode. And artists have figured this out. I love artists and creatives. You know that there’s something called Method Acting, the Stanislavsky technique. He said smile and you’ll be happy. The action draws you into the emotion. So… I started pretending I was speaking on the phone to my daughter, or my mother, or a friend, having a good conversation, speaking into the phone as if I was hearing the kind of conversation I wished for, when I was at a desperately low point and those real conversations weren’t happening. And my body later on…or my mind or both…knew something happened. That is important. Because something did happen, in my body and brain.
And so the MIR technique is along such lines. It works into the future, day by day. I think though, if I think about how I fooled myself, I get worse. But the reality is, we have to become visible to ourselves, and it’s really not fooling ourselves, it’s acting it out with ourselves. What do we want to hear? What can we inspire to happen? We don’t completely know how we humans operate do we? This moves us along into a plane of intention for ourselves, a vision of what we wish for, working out with ourselves instead of keeping it rolling inside our heads unrealized. The act of acting it out gives realization. We need realization in the physical realm. That’s what we are. We respond to any physical input and we can create that input for ourselves. This is not secret, this is how we are built. We live this way. So the stroking of the MIR-Method while speaking to ourselves the same thing in a repetition makes sense. Exactly what Mireille has us say, that’s another thing. How did she come up with these “mantras” ?
I balked at the detaching of mother and father because I’m a mom and don’t want to be detached. However reasonable finding your own voice and life is, there’s something wrong with reveling in an uprooting like this. I believe what you say here is a cultural affectation. It’s important that you become your own person but to literally detach is not the idea. To allow freedom to wander and do your thing is good. I think there can be a sadness in celebrating a detachment without acknowledging the attachment. Again I think this is cultural, it’s Scandinavian thinking. A very liberal society. And in these societies there can be a huge amount of depression if there is too much detachment. Too much liberal thinking, .. too much “do your own thing”. The wording needs clarification. As it is here it’s too extreme and the misunderstanding can bring something cold into the equation, callous, dismissive. Cold. Like the far north. Don’t tell me cultures don’t play into this. This method is from the far north. Maybe rub the arm and say appreciate mother. Appreciate father. then you can detach. But it really needs a preface.
Dear Hope,
Thank you for your elaborate response. Yes, to do the MIR-Method, it is a good idea to watch the instruction video first, to understand what is meant by the words of the 9 steps.
When you say ‘detach father’, what it means is that you become untangled from your father’s emotions, ideas, lifestyle, etc. and you can live more independently from him. The consequence is that the connection between you and your father becomes better, improves, because you are no longer in each other’s hair.
Wishing you lots of goodness in your life and thank you for using the MIR-Method!
Greetings! Mireille
Can you please say if you are doing a live course in London
Dear Indira,
Not yet. When I plan to give courses again, I will announce them in the newsletter. Thank you for asking!
Greetings, Mireille Mettes
Mireille, I love the MIR Method. Even included in my book ‘Rejuvenate Naturally’ which is for sale on Amazon.com. Today I’m giving a workshop on Rejuvenation, and will be including this article and teaching the MIR Method. Thank you for sharing it with the world.
Dear Katie,
Many congratulations on your book! Great achievement! Thank you for including the MIR-Method and for helping bringing it to other people. May many people heal themselves!
Greetings, Mireille Mettes
I love just doing the steps even tho I completed the 30 days, just seeing your face makes me smile.
I have less allergies this Spring as I dig in the garden, very thankful for that.
My granddaughter who is 13 has enjoyed the steps as well and even uses them on her many pets.
I am painting again which is a huge improvement. Especially appreciate how you address these topics such as being more visible. In my family of origin I excelled at being invisible, was shy and now I know as well, clairvoyant. I have been in a 4 year program to develop these skills and now can take care of the sensitivities in a healthy way. Your steps, tho have given me another level of personal power and I really appreciate the wisdom of using kinesiology.
Thank you so much for your insights.
Bev
Dear Beverly,
Thank you so much for giving the MIR-Method a try! I am so happy for you that you can feel and notice how it works! I am grateful for you mentioning your clairvoyancy. I believe there are many more people who do not talk about this wonderful gift, although I believe if they would be open about it, they could be contributing to other people’s lives.
Am glad your allergies have gone and you can enjoy working in the garden again! Yeah! Such bliss!
Thank you for sharing!
Mireille Mettes
Bonjour et merci
pas trop d’effets avec MIR-Méthode
je viens de faire 2 mois,je fais une pause et je reprends !
je désespère pas
cordialement
Patrick
Cher Patrick,
Parfois ça dûre plus longtemps. Merci pour ayez patience!
Bon courage,
Mireille Mettes