People who bring people together are bridge builders. You find them in all kinds of places and in all kinds of circumstances. They are very lovable people who wish the very best for other people. I call them “bridge builders”. They work or do their daily activities and are always looking for ways they can mean something to other people, especially by referring them to other people. You often hear them say, “You should talk to this or that person because….”, followed by good advice. They often organize the contact for you within a day.

What nice qualities do bridge builders have?

Bridge builders are people with a big heart who like to see others flourish. They like to see other people be able to take the steps that they would like to take. They encourage others, help them move forward and often give them good tips, through which the other person can move ahead. I know a lot of these people. One of them lives near me. She brings neighbors together each month for a “cup of tea”. “When the blue containers are outside,” she says (used to collect paper in the Netherlands). Then we know that it is time for the neighborhood get-together again. We meet other neighbors in the morning, which provides a low threshold and fosters a great atmosphere. I’ve met new neighbors this way with whom I’m regularly in contact. Bridges built!

How do you recognize a bridge builder?

Bridge builders like to help to connect people. They quickly recognize what someone else needs and their minds start searching for ways to help the other person move ahead. They are the coaches who know precisely what the next step is for someone. They are never pushy; they just want you to achieve happiness. They want it for you. I’ve made a list of 10 examples of how you can recognize a bridge builder.

1. A bridge builder knows a lot of people and doesn’t fail to bring people together.
2. A bridge builder listens carefully and is sincerely interested in how you are doing.
3. A bridge builder asks questions to find out what they can do for you.
4. A bridge builder provides opportunities for people to meet each other.
5. Bridge builders organize parties.
6. Bridge builders make contact between people possible.
7. They talk positively about other people.
8. They organize (e.g. cooking) clubs for people to have a good time together.
9. They encourage people and will even make the first contact for you.
10. Bridge builders enjoy it when people find each other.

Bridge builders make fine leaders

There are all kinds of leadership. I’ve spoken about female leadership before and about how that can be invisible. Bridge builders are good at this. They are often modest, even though their actions can mean a lot to other people. They are also focused on other people’s happiness and will never drive people away from each other, in contrast to the actions of some leaders I see. Some leaders speak harsh words about other people; they judge others without looking at the actual background of someone. And the most awful quality some leaders have is that they pit people against each other. I can really get upset about this last quality. Leaders who think they know it all but, in the meantime, sow discord. I don’t call them leaders, but agitators.

Why I like bridge builders so much

No, take bridge builders, then. They make sure that people find each other and connect to each other. They encourage people and make sure that people can grow. I love bridge builders and I am grateful for what they have meant and continue to mean to me and to the MIR-Method!

The MIR-Method and bridge builders

When you do the MIR-Method, you work in many areas on your mission. It unfolds itself during your life and by doing the 9 steps you cause your mission to become clear more quickly. The 9 steps will, in any case, increase your self-confidence. Read about it in the article about “Female problem: adapting, neglecting yourself and forgetting your own importance”.
If your mission is to be a bridge builder, that will become increasingly clear to you. You will be increasingly aware of how much joy you cause, often through a few sentences someone says to you or simply by bringing two people together. If you do the MIR-Method, you will increasingly embrace and live out your mission. Your confidence that your natural ability to bring people together could actually be your life’s goal increases. It just feels so easy to do. And that is often the greatest joke of all: that what you do easily often has everything to do with your mission! Building bridges? I’d say, please! Many, and often!

How about you? Have you noticed that bringing people together gives you increasing enjoyment? How has the MIR-Method contributed to that? Please let me know below. Thank you!
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I hope that your mission becomes ever clearer and that you can make many people happy as a bridge builder!
Sincerely,
Mireille Mettes

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