9. Seven Loving Reasons You Haven’t Stopped Smoking
I have fond thoughts about smokers. If you are a smoker, then I would like to share these thoughts with you hoping that you feel understood and know deep down inside why you continue to smoke.
Smoking is Not Healthy, But You Know That.
During the past few years it has become clear through scientific research that smoking is not healthy for you, or for those around you. I don’t need to tell you this; you know that! Still, the peculiar thing is that, even though you know it isn’t good for you, you continue to smoke. Your addiction is stronger than your desire to remain healthy. And one cigarette more or less doesn’t make any difference. It’s the cigarette after that, and the one after that, and then another one, and another one, year in, year out. And you know this.
Do You Recognize Yourself? Then You’ve Got a Good Chance of Success!
What reasons do people have for smoking and what makes stopping so difficult or prevents people from even trying? Hopefully you’ll be able to identify with one of these causes, because that means you have a good chance to stop smoking with the MIR-Method!
Reason 1. You Decided at Some Time, Deep Inside, That You Want to be Sick.
Many people experience unpleasant situations. School is one of these. Many young people find school difficult, don’t feel seen, heard or understood and can therefore be open to peer pressure to start smoking. Many young people are unhappy and wish time and again they were ill so they could stay at home. If that is the case, you have a mechanism within you that continues to make sure you become sick. That was what you then fervently wished for! By smoking, you make yourself sick.
Reason 2. Peer Pressure from Your Group or Partner.
People close to you (your partner, colleagues, sport friends, friends) smoke. You have already tried stopping, but because there are so many smokers around you, it is a big challenge to stop. The temptation to start again is overwhelming.
Reason 3. Being Extremely Sensitive.
You feel more emotions than others. You feel other people’s emotions and don’t know what to do with them. Smoking helps you to deal with this because it numbs your feelings. People who are highly sensitive are also more sensitive to addictions and peer pressure.
Reason 4. Hiding From Your Talents.
You are a special person with special talents, like clairvoyancy or healing hands. It’s possible that you are afraid of this and try to hide your gifts. You envelop in a cloud of smoke. You fear what others think when you show your special talents. Marianne Williamson once wrote in a poem: ‘Our biggest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure!’
Reason 5. You are Unhappy and Smoke to Forget.
People who smoke are unhappy. They are sad about what is going on around them at work, in their relationship, because of arguments in the family or with an ex-partner. According to Chinese Medicine, sadness affects the Lung Meridian. You are trying to get rid of your sadness by numbing your feelings.
Reason 6. You’re Afraid to Say the Truth.
Smokers are often people who have much Truth within them, but don’t have the courage to speak the Truth. Conversations at places where smokers congregate are often interesting. They have good solutions to problems! Most people who smoke have at some time learned not to speak about their Truth and keep it to themselves. How symbolic is it that you keep your truth in your mouth by putting a cigarette in it and inhaling the smoke!
Reason 7. Feelings of Guilt.
You will let go of any feelings of guilt about smoking:
– I smoke and that is not good for my children.
– I neglect myself in spite of actually being a really nice person.
– Because of me, my partner has too work too hard.
– If I wasn’t such a weakling, we’d be better off now.
We have all kinds of reasons for feeling guilty. And just this one feeling of guilt can be the one and only reason you can’t quit! Please realize that!
And it is possible to let go! Do the MIR-Method and be sure to watch this video about overcoming your addiction! (3rd video from the top).
Do you identify with any of these reasons? Please let me know. Write your view on this below. Thank you for doing that!
May you feel understood!
Mireille Mettes
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Can I do MIR method for my son with his consent to stop him from smoking?? How can I do energetically??
Dear Simmi,
Yes, you can, however, it would be much better if he would do it himself. He CAN stroke himself, can’t he? If you talk to him about it, you can agree to do it for 2 weeks to give him a headstart. The way to do it is explained in the video that I mention in the article above: just add step 0: ‘Release smoking addiction’. If you want to do it for him, you add his name before every sentence. See question nr. 5 for more explanation. And please remember that he needs to do it for at least 4 months!
Good luck!
Greetings, Mireille Mettes
Thank you!